Just the other day I was talking with a friend who said to me, “You have had a lot of stress in your life in the past few months.” Now granted, this gal and I share a lot about the stuff that happens in our lives, good or bad and in return support each other with positive and optimistic viewpoints, however, in this case she was dead wrong. Despite all of the junk in my life and what others would consider stressful, I don’t have any stress.
I used to though. Oh, yeah and boy did I ever. I could write the book on egocentric husbands and their vindictive divorce tactics. (those are the guys who think you are their personal property) I lost my beloved parents and many of my dear companion animals. I have had children end up in hospitals where I had to hide so that I could cry. There were days when everything mechanical in the house that could break did in fact break. The list goes on and on and I am sure that everyone has had those kinds of days and admitted to having stress in their lives.
Bingo! The problem arises when you admit to being stressed. Once you admit to something, you own it. We all have read or heard about the effects that stress has on the body; high blood pressure, heart disease, stroke, depression, backache, chronic fatigue syndrome, emotional disorders, colitis and irritable bowel syndrome to name a few. Therefore, by admitting we have stress we become sitting ducks for all of these horrible illnesses because we know and believe something to be true.
When I found out that I had high blood pressure, I was shocked because my blood pressure normally has always run on the low side. When I talked to my doctor about this the first thing she asked me was what was going on in my life and was there anything causing me to feel stress. Well yes there was! Thankfully, she did not prescribe blood pressure medicine but told me to come back in a month for a re-check.
Two years later, the junk that makes people stressed out still goes on in my life. And yet my blood pressure is back where it should be…normal to a little on the low side. And that’s even in the dentist chair which is not a place I have ever felt comfortable.
So, when my friend told me she thought I was stressed, I stopped her and told her that I do not have any stress in my life. “Of course you do, look at all that has been happening just in the past few months.” Nope, no stress.
It’s just life. Life is not perfect and comes with many ups and downs. I could spend my days worrying about something or getting angry and upset and letting these thoughts eat away at my being or I can do something else.
I can change my thoughts and change my life. This is the key to removing stress like throwing out the trash. I do not admit to defeat by stress. I don’t ever even say the “s” word. Instead, I say farkeld. What? Yes, farkeld. Silly, huh?
I recently gave a speech, “How to remove stress from your life as easily as throwing out the trash.” I asked the audience if they ever felt stressed and every head in the room was nodding up and down. Later, I asked them to make up and write down a silly word on a card I gave them. At the end of the speech I had everyone pass their card to the person on their left. That was when I told them, “From this day forward, you will never use the ‘s’ word again and instead you will be replacing it with the word on the card you receive.” Well, laughter erupted all through the room. One gal would now have to say she was snoogled instead of stressed. The giggles went on and on.
Think about what you are thinking because we are what we think.
Who doesn’t feels good when you laugh? Laughter has been scientifically proven to improve our health and well-being, lowers blood pressure, improves circulation and all kinds of other good stuff.
Don’t be a victim of the “s” word. Don’t say it and don’t own it. Regardless of what happens in life, there is nothing that is worth the sacrifice of your emotional and physical health. Then consider using a silly word instead of the “s” word. Sure, the crappy circumstances aren’t going to change so fast and there may not be anything we can ever do to change them but we can change the negative effects they have on our health. One silly little word that makes you giggle can induce a miraculous chemical change in your brain that actually makes you healthier and happier despite the circumstances.
I have had a flippin farkelfull week. What about you? 🙂